Heat coconut oil in a pan. Add fenugreek seeds and sauté until golden brown.
Add shallots and green chillies, sauté until golden.
Stir in tamarind water, turmeric powder, asafoetida, salt, and 2 cups of water. Bring to a boil.
Add longer-cooking vegetables (pumpkin, colocasia, drumstick, carrot), cover, and cook on medium heat for 10-15 minutes until half-cooked.
Add brinjal and continue cooking for 5-6 minutes until all vegetables are soft.
Add okra and cook for another 2 minutes.
Mix in Kashmiri chilli powder, coriander powder, and cooked dal. Add salt, tomato, and jaggery/sugar if using. Simmer for 3-4 minutes.
Stir in fresh coriander leaves and turn off heat.